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Tri Sigma Dads and Daughters: Robert Reid

  • Posted on June 16, 2011 at 1:38 am

Robert Reid and his daughter, Arlene

Let me tell you about my Dad, Robert Reid, 81, father of two Tri-Sigmas, Arlene Reid Ball (Alpha Phi –  Central Michigan University, 75) and Gail Reid Vettraino “76, and grandfather of Tri- Sigma Jennifer Ball Billings, University of Detroit Mercy, BT “00

Robert Reid,  IS Friendship, Character and Conduct. He is a friend to many in Rochester, Michigan and Fort Myers, Florida where he splits his time. He has been very involved with the Lions Club in Rochester, organizing many charity golf tournaments, collecting for White Cane and was also involved in the Lions Club in Kona, Hawaii for 30 winters there.

Last summer, he was not feeling well, but continued to help with Rockin Rods, a car show that raises money for Leader Dogs for  the Blind. Unfortunately the sickness turned out to be mesothelioma, asbestos cancer, which is taking its toll on him. But Bob’s golf friends in Ft Myers thought so much of him that they wanted him to continue to play and would tee up his ball and do all the bending for him, so he could be with them.  His friends tell him what an inspiration he is to them. My father is also such a good storyteller, and is fun to be with.

 Bob’s character is known as honest, hardworking and helpful. He was unable to stay in school in the 40’s due to family situations, but is self-educated. Serving in the Merchant Marines just after WWII, laboring as a brick layer, learning the building trades and forming his small building company, my dad is a self-made man. A big family man, my dad was always there to listen to me during those difficult teenage years, a strong and steady hand, guiding me through rough seas. 

My father is always taking the upper road.  I think of what a wonderful caregiver he was to my aunt when she was dying of cancer, so patient, caring and kind. He also cared for and looked out for his own parents. 

Dad is a pillar of dignity and strength, the strong mast of our family. On this past Memorial Day, struggling with breathing, he visited his WWII veteran brother’s grave to place a flag on it to honor him. Friendship, Character, Conduct, that is Robert Reid, my dear and beloved dad.

Arlene Reid Ball

Alpha Phi –  Central Michigan University, 75

Tri Sigma Dads and Daughters: Kent David

  • Posted on June 14, 2011 at 8:12 pm

Kent David and his daughter, Angela

My dad, Kent David, is a great example of a father who has shaped my personal character and conduct, and he is one of my role models because of his character and conduct.  My dad is a very dedicated person, who has a strong will and has a touch of perfectionism (which has rubbed off on me a little).

Since a young age, I have seen and been held to my father’s tough standards, which developed my character.  He would never let me give up with band or school, and he made sure I was holding myself to my own high standards as well as his own.  Throughout grade school and high school, my dad would make sure that I was doing the best I could in each class, and he also made sure I was successful.  His standards would never let me get below a B in any of my courses.
Because of his high standards, I was accepted into 6 wonderful colleges, but settled on Murray State University.  With my character development in high school, I was fortunate enough to be selected to become a member of Sigma Sigma Sigma during my freshman year of college.  I knew that during college, I needed to live up to the standards of character and conduct my dad had instilled in me.

I became friends and family with my sisters and others on campus, and I demonstrated strong conduct on campus, so I was elected to be the Senator of Business and Public Affairs for our Student Government Association.  And finally, I was a woman of character, always making sure to include others and live up to my own standards, values, and morals.

Even after college, I have seen my dad still help mold my friendship, character, and conduct.  Within the past three years, I have seen my dad graduate with his Bachelor’s Degree, earning a 4.0 GPA during his entire time in college!  I have also been able to witness my dad as part of the Worship Team at my church.  He lives up his conduct with being a leader in his union for work.  He has such a strong character and upholds great conduct in all that he does, and continues to be one of my role models, and now a role model for my sister, who is is also at school.

Kent David is an example of someone who upholds Friendship, Character, and Conduct, and I am very proud to call him dad!

Ever Forward,

Angela David, Alpha Chi Chapter

Volunteer Recruitment Coordinator

Murray State University

Tri Sigma Dads and Daughters: Anthony Waguespack

  • Posted on June 13, 2011 at 8:40 am

My daddy’s name is Anthony Waguespack.  He is the proud father of three Tri Sigma sisters, Kristie, Anna, and myself, and the husband to my amazing Tri Sigma mom, Paula. Our story goes like this.

My oldest sister, Kristie, was the first Waguespack initiated as a Tri Sigma, then my middle sister, Anna, and then myself. We are all two years apart. My parents have been the Sigma “go to parents” for everything.  We’ve hosted Gamma Pi’s Bid Day two years in a row at my house, had Gamma Pi chapter retreats at my house, and we have held numerous sisterhood events ranging from movie nights to lighting a bonfire and roasting marshmallows.  My mom was initiated into Tri Sigma as well, and if we could, we would initiate my dad.

"My oldest sister, Kristie, with my Daddy on her wedding day."

My dad has supported every one of his daughters with our dreams 100 %.

Whether it was just helping out during recruitment when I was membership recruitment director, or suppporting the switch I did in my major from nursing to education, even though I knew he wasn’t too happy I was taking a pay cut with my career.

He has always been there when my sisters and I needed him, and we needed him a lot.  Throughout college, my sisters and I have held  a combined total of 6 officer positions,  and a number of chairmen positions as well.  My oldest sister, Kristie, graduated from Nicholls State, and then went on to receive her master’s degree in speech therapy.  My middle sister, Anna, moved out and started her “big girl” job at the hospital in Thibodaux as a nurse, and I am still in college at Nicholls State, about to graduate from undergraduate, and I’m preparing to go back for a master’s degree.

"Me and my Daddy at Homecoming"

To say that my father helped mold us into the women we are today is a complete understatement.  My dad, along with my mother, raised us on the core Tri Sigma values of friendship, character, and conduct.  It is one of the reasons we were all drawn to Tri Sigma.

Tri Sigma helped us grow further, but we could have never done it without the help of our parents.  They have instilled in us that you must always be nice to others, and be a friend no matter what comes your way.  They have raised us to have good morals, and most importantly, to live out and through those morals.  They did everything they could to bring God into our home to help lead the way.  My daddy has given us a path for us to become amazing women, now we just have to follow it.


Shelly Waguespack

Gamma Pi Chapter – Nicholls State University

"Anna, my Daddy, and I at SAE's Chili Cookoff"

Tri Sigma Dads and Daughters: Norman Harry Gallaher, Sr.

  • Posted on June 12, 2011 at 8:43 pm

Reading and compiling these tributes has been pretty incredible, and I’m so moved by the Tri Sigma women who shared their stories with me. Over the next six days, you won’t just read about six men. You will read about six fathers – the caring men who have shaped the lives of our sisters and friends.

One of the things that most touched me is the impact that a father can have on his daughter – no matter her age or lifestage, if her father is is still alive or no longer with us, these special men make an indelible impression that transcends age.

Women join Tri Sigma with diverse definitions of the word “family.” Some women come to Tri Sigma looking to replicate what they found at home, and some look to Tri Sigma friends to become family. Thanks to each of the 6 women who shared their fathers with us. Many of these men have built relationships with entire chapters, and we know that family support means so much to the chapters who have connections with parents.

Each tribute is unique, and the tell 6 unique stories of women shaped by the fantastic men in their lives.

Our first Father’s Day tribute is written by Brenda Birch Gallaher, an initiate of Gamma Mu Chapter – Southeastern Louisiana University.

The Gallaher Family

My father, Norman Harry Gallaher, Sr., is from New Jersey,  so a “Yankee” in essence.  He married a Southern woman, and my mother and most of his children [three of us] were born in the South.  He called his parents “mom” and “pop” – but he decided he liked the term “daddy” much better.  Even at 53, he was still my daddy.

Unfortunately, I don’t have any pictures of the two of us alone together, not as an adult anyway.  Daddy wasn’t one to have his picture taken too much.  I do have a family yard photo from when I was fifteen.  I’m the dark haired one with the attitude in the picture.
My daddy was the one who said it was important that I go through Rush [what we called formal recruitment in the 70’s] and to find the perfect sorority for me to join.  He said that I should not join a sorority “just because,” but join because the sorority was the right one.
We lived less than a block off the edge of campus, so I lived at home.  Every night after an event for Rush, I would come home, and Daddy would get out of bed and ask me questions about what had happened that night. He would ask me one simple question; “What did you think?”

I told him first about Tri Sigma, and then about the other sororities.  Each night was exactly the same.  Then, it came down to preference, and my father didn’t have to ask me which sorority I was putting first – he didn’t even have to ask if I was putting a second choice.  And that’s exactly what the other sorority would have been; second choice.
So, it was my father who suggested I go through Rush, make the right choice, and then he paid for everything.  He never asked any questions.  If I told him I needed money for something for Tri Sigma, he’d ask what the deadline was, and then got the money to me.  I usually had to do some extra chores for the money if it was too much, but that was so I didn’t have a sense of entitlement; he wanted me to learn that I needed to work for what I wanted.

When it came to my badge, our chapter said we had a choice.  We could order the badge and chapter guard all at once, or the badge in the beginning of the semester, and then the guard by the beginning of the next semester.  Daddy paid for everything right up front.  He didn’t want me waiting.  Most of the girls just got their badges and then waited on their guards.

My father saw no reason for that.  He wanted me to have everything up front, so I was the same as any sister in the chapter.

Thanks for the chance to talk about my father.  He’s been dead nine years now and if he was alive, he would be 95.  He had children in 30s and 40s, which in his day was almost unheard of, and which now is common, but he told all three of the girls in my family, it didn’t matter if we were girls, we could do anything we wanted to.

Brenda Birch Gallaher
Gamma Mu 197, February 15, 1977
Southeastern Louisiana University

Tri Sigma Flower Power! – Delta Beta’s Chapter Doll

  • Posted on June 9, 2011 at 9:32 pm

Delta Beta - Elon University

Delta Beta’s chapter doll speaks for herself! One of the few dolls with a prop, she is a colorful reminder of the time period in which our chapter at Elon University was chartered.

Delta Beta received its charter on April 25, 1970, when Elon still identified as a college. A local organization, Tau Zeta Phi, had been in existence at Elon for 47 years, and as a result of good scholarship and a history of campus involvement, became Sigma Sigma Sigma. Tri Sigma was the first national sorority to charter in Elon’s history.

1970 was a year of considerable domestic turmoil, and the culture reflected that, as does the doll.

Elon University is a private liberal arts institution in Elon, North Carolina. Some of Elon’s trademarks are the absolutely beautiful grounds of the campus, and the many oak trees that pepper the 56 acre Elon forest. In fact, the campus is designated a botanical garden, and the name “Elon” is especially fitting, as Elon is the Hebrew word for “oak.”

Delta Beta women are fortunate to be on a campus with many, many students who study abroad and complete challenging internships, but Tri Sigmas may know this chapter as the group of women who “knocked our socks off” with a stellar Greek Sing performance.

It’s only fitting to include that performance here.

Collegiate & Alumnae Award Winners 2010-2011

  • Posted on June 4, 2011 at 7:28 am


Congratulations to the sisters and chapters who won awards! All the winners, and photos from some of the award presentations, are included in the video below.

Sigma Chapter Dolls: A Tradition Like No Other

  • Posted on June 3, 2011 at 6:58 am

Chapter dolls have been a tradition since the Convention of 1953, and since then, every chapter has submitted a doll representing the period in which they were installed and the fashion/mood of the time. Each doll is currently stored in glass cabinets at the Mabel Lee Walton House and Headquarters, and every chapter represents a snapsnot of time in Sigma.

During Tri Sigma’s Centennial in 1998, former historian Jane Kinderman filled in the gaps left in the submission of chapter dolls, and since then every installed chapter has submitted a doll.

We’ll post a different chapter doll, along with the chapter installation history every Friday throughout the summer!

Our first chapter doll was requested on Facebook by Becky Luis, an initiate of Zeta Epsilon!

Zeta Epsilon - Florida International University


A perfect doll for our chapter at Florida International University (FIU) in sunny Miami, Florida! This chapter was chartered on November 2nd, 1991 at one of the fastest growing universities in the country. With a current student body of more than 44,000 students, the FIU Panthers also offer 50% of Miami-Dade’s teacher population. Known for it’s cultural diversity, it’s not out of the ordinary to hear multi-lingual students on campus, or to visit the South Beach Food and Wine Festival as a portion of your class on hospitality! The chapter began at FIU as a local organization (Chi Alpha Theta), and is celebrating 20 years on FIU’s campus in 2011.

Our Leadership: Bethany Deines – National Vice President

  • Posted on June 1, 2011 at 8:51 am

Our Executive Council members have touched so many lives, and we are incredibly blessed to have Council members who are beloved by both Tri Sigmas and by members of other fraternities and sororities. One National Vice President, Bethany Deines – Beta Kappa, is a fantastic example of  a true Tri Sigma ambassador. Having served in numerous capacities during her membership, she has a real knack for using history to inform her choices, and for building relationships that have changed our organization for the better.

Her service is underscored by real love for our sisterhood. When we asked a Sigma sister to write a tribute to Beth, we received a really special note from our National Meeting Planner – Courtney Stone. You can read her thoughts below. We encourage you to offer your comments on your relationship with Bethany in the comment box.

Bethany at the Kentucky Derby

Oddly enough, I cannot put my finger on the first time I actually spoke to Beth Deines.  In a way, she’s just always been a part of my National officer/volunteer service memories.  The “Dick Clark” (if you don’t know who that is collegians, Google him) of National officer service, Beth is a wonderfully, colorful part of my memories that I’m so honored to share with the rest of our National sisterhood.  Since blogs by nature should be fun, easy and interesting to read, I’m going to make mine into a “Top 5 Things You Should Know about Your National Vice President, Beth Deines” countdown list.

5. Beth has an empathetic ear and heart.

When I confided in her that I was having some medical issues a few years back, she was the first to make suggestions of what could help me.  Every time we see or e-mail one another she’ll always ask how I’m feeling and check in on me.  Beth takes the time to listen and makes you feel like you’re a very important part of her life even if you only see her once in a blue moon.

Kara Miller, Bethany, and Mandy McGuire

4. Beth makes a great roommate if you’re traveling on Sigma business.

I’ve roomed with Beth while making expansion presentations at both the University of Illinois and Indiana University.  Each time, we’ve stayed up way past our bedtimes belly laughing and telling one another secrets.  Just be sure to make her turn off her phone if you’re not a morning person—she’s very popular and it rings constantly! I nearly threw her “Crackberry” out the window of the U of I’s Student Union.

3. Beth knows EVERYONE!

If Ann wasn’t the name printed on her Initiation certificate, I would think her middle name was “Constantly Networking”!  Beth’s the type of person that if you ask, “Do you know Jane?” her response would be, “Oh, yeah, good ol’ Janie! I went to lunch last week with her second cousin twice-removed.  Her son has really improved his finger painting and her daughter is loving soccer.”  It’s just not limited to our little “Sigma nucleus” either.  She’s well-known and respected amongst other collegiate and fraternal organizations’ leadership.  I recently traveled all the way down to the University of Central Florida from Chicago and was greeted by the University’s Housing Director with, “You’re a Tri Sigma?  You must know Beth Deines then!

2. Beth isn’t afraid to stand out in a crowd.

At my first Sigma volunteer leadership institute, we played this game where everyone stood in a circle and if the leader read a statement that was true/pertained to you, you were to take a step forward thus revealing who you are to your fellow Sisters.  The statements started off quite easy like, “I love chocolate.” Needless to say, we’re Tri Sigmas…we all stepped forward!However, the statements became increasingly more personal and challenged the participants’ willingness to be both open about themselves and what they stood for. I recall one statement in particular that made the room grow hauntingly quiet as no one wanted to be brave enough to step forward. Out of the corner of my eye, half way across the room, I saw one woman step forward. That was Beth. Soon after, a sprinkling of other women stepped forward because of Beth’s willingness to be her genuine self and share a piece of her very private inner thoughts. I’m always proud to have this type of leadership at our Executive level.

Kelly Jo Karnes, Bethany, Lorin Phillips, Allison Swick-Duttine, Kaye Schendel

1. Beth demands and surrounds herself with excellence.

I’ve worked both for and side-by-side with Beth for many years now on and I can easily say she’s one of the people you don’t ever want to let down because you know she’ll never let you down.  She gives everything she has to the people and organizations that are a part of her life and she inspires those amongst her to lead with the same type of unbridled passion.  You can honestly just hear it in her voice when she speaks about Tri Sigma—her wonderfully muddled accent that combines her stints in Arizona, Virginia and Ohio all into one.  She thinks with “big ideas” but then is able to execute the “small details” with great ease.  As a result, she’s type of Council Member that isn’t afraid to roll up their sleeves and genuinely talk with collegians, alumnae and her peers about the future and momentum of our organization.  She will challenge your mode of thinking.  Take the challenge.

I always joke there are some leaders we have now that we’re so thankful their collegiate chapter didn’t goof up in membership selection and “let that one slip through the cracks.”  So thank you Beta Kappa for voting positively for the privilege of membership and giving a bid to Beth, and Beth, thank you for taking that bid and turning it into the bid for so many of thousands after you!  “It only takes a spark…”

Bethany with her lovely niece, Elle.