Our Executive Council members have touched so many lives, and we are incredibly blessed to have Council members who are beloved by both Tri Sigmas and by members of other fraternities and sororities. One National Vice President, Bethany Deines - Beta Kappa, is a fantastic example of a true Tri Sigma ambassador. Having served in numerous capacities during her membership, she has a real knack for using history to inform her choices, and for building relationships that have changed our organization for the better.
Her service is underscored by real love for our sisterhood. When we asked a Sigma sister to write a tribute to Beth, we received a really special note from our National Meeting Planner – Courtney Stone. You can read her thoughts below. We encourage you to offer your comments on your relationship with Bethany in the comment box.
Bethany at the Kentucky Derby
Oddly enough, I cannot put my finger on the first time I actually spoke to Beth Deines. In a way, she’s just always been a part of my National officer/volunteer service memories. The “Dick Clark” (if you don’t know who that is collegians, Google him) of National officer service, Beth is a wonderfully, colorful part of my memories that I’m so honored to share with the rest of our National sisterhood. Since blogs by nature should be fun, easy and interesting to read, I’m going to make mine into a “Top 5 Things You Should Know about Your National Vice President, Beth Deines” countdown list.
5. Beth has an empathetic ear and heart.
When I confided in her that I was having some medical issues a few years back, she was the first to make suggestions of what could help me. Every time we see or e-mail one another she’ll always ask how I’m feeling and check in on me. Beth takes the time to listen and makes you feel like you’re a very important part of her life even if you only see her once in a blue moon.
Kara Miller, Bethany, and Mandy McGuire
4. Beth makes a great roommate if you’re traveling on Sigma business.
I’ve roomed with Beth while making expansion presentations at both the University of Illinois and Indiana University. Each time, we’ve stayed up way past our bedtimes belly laughing and telling one another secrets. Just be sure to make her turn off her phone if you’re not a morning person—she’s very popular and it rings constantly! I nearly threw her “Crackberry” out the window of the U of I’s Student Union.
3. Beth knows EVERYONE!
If Ann wasn’t the name printed on her Initiation certificate, I would think her middle name was “Constantly Networking”! Beth’s the type of person that if you ask, “Do you know Jane?” her response would be, “Oh, yeah, good ol’ Janie! I went to lunch last week with her second cousin twice-removed. Her son has really improved his finger painting and her daughter is loving soccer.” It’s just not limited to our little “Sigma nucleus” either. She’s well-known and respected amongst other collegiate and fraternal organizations’ leadership. I recently traveled all the way down to the University of Central Florida from Chicago and was greeted by the University’s Housing Director with, “You’re a Tri Sigma? You must know Beth Deines then!
2. Beth isn’t afraid to stand out in a crowd.
At my first Sigma volunteer leadership institute, we played this game where everyone stood in a circle and if the leader read a statement that was true/pertained to you, you were to take a step forward thus revealing who you are to your fellow Sisters. The statements started off quite easy like, “I love chocolate.” Needless to say, we’re Tri Sigmas…we all stepped forward!However, the statements became increasingly more personal and challenged the participants’ willingness to be both open about themselves and what they stood for. I recall one statement in particular that made the room grow hauntingly quiet as no one wanted to be brave enough to step forward. Out of the corner of my eye, half way across the room, I saw one woman step forward. That was Beth. Soon after, a sprinkling of other women stepped forward because of Beth’s willingness to be her genuine self and share a piece of her very private inner thoughts. I’m always proud to have this type of leadership at our Executive level.
Kelly Jo Karnes, Bethany, Lorin Phillips, Allison Swick-Duttine, Kaye Schendel
1. Beth demands and surrounds herself with excellence.
I’ve worked both for and side-by-side with Beth for many years now on and I can easily say she’s one of the people you don’t ever want to let down because you know she’ll never let you down. She gives everything she has to the people and organizations that are a part of her life and she inspires those amongst her to lead with the same type of unbridled passion. You can honestly just hear it in her voice when she speaks about Tri Sigma—her wonderfully muddled accent that combines her stints in Arizona, Virginia and Ohio all into one. She thinks with “big ideas” but then is able to execute the “small details” with great ease. As a result, she’s type of Council Member that isn’t afraid to roll up their sleeves and genuinely talk with collegians, alumnae and her peers about the future and momentum of our organization. She will challenge your mode of thinking. Take the challenge.
I always joke there are some leaders we have now that we’re so thankful their collegiate chapter didn’t goof up in membership selection and “let that one slip through the cracks.” So thank you Beta Kappa for voting positively for the privilege of membership and giving a bid to Beth, and Beth, thank you for taking that bid and turning it into the bid for so many of thousands after you! “It only takes a spark…”
Bethany with her lovely niece, Elle.