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Going Alumna

  • Posted on June 25, 2015 at 12:05 pm

By: Amanda Cross22

“Visitation is discovery: collegians discover that Sigma officers are not merely people but truly Sigma Sisters; visitors discover that collegians today are very much like those of yesterday…really!”–p. 27 of Sigma Sigma Sigma: Over A Century of Sisterhood.

As I was reading this passage from the Sigma Sigma Sigma history we all hold so near and dear to our hearts I looked back at my experiences as a collegiate member of the sorority. The first time I was in the chapter and we had a national visitor come to our sorority–I was very scared. I had no idea what to expect and the prospect of having a woman down from National Headquarters was just hard for me to wrap my head around. Not to mention the visit was during a most emotional time for any sorority member–formal recruitment.

One of my first ever memories of a sister from Tri Sigma nationally was in the form of a regional consultant visit. We weren’t sure what to expect when she came into town or how everything would work. By the end of the week we had grown closer to our regional consultant as a chapter and I continue to keep in touch with her through social media. At first it seemed that all people from Tri Sigma nationally would just be different. What we found out is that they liked the same things as us, did the same things as us, believed in the same core values as us. They were sisters.

Flash forward to today, I have had the privilege of getting to know many people from Tri Sigma nationally through opportunities like this blog, regional consultants, and random Tri Sigma events. It has been a journey, but one that has helped me grow tremendously in this organization–and one that made me want to become the alumna that I saw all of these women become–the super involved kind.

Just these simple moments of sweetness, these moments of laughter, and these moments of kindness really helped me grow. I began to see getting involved at the National level as something everyone could easily go after. So as soon as I was in the last semester of my senior year in college I knew I wanted one goal–to get involved nationally as soon as I got out of college. I did all I could and landed the role of Marketing and Communications Assistant where I will be able to use my love of social media to benefit tons of Tri Sigma women all across the country (and even various parts of the world).

Looking back to my freshmen year I don’t think I ever would have saw this level of involvement coming, but I am forever grateful to all the Sigma Sigma Sigma women I have gotten to know all over this country for giving me the confidence to help this organization that I love so much in so many ways. So join me on my new journey of recent alumna life, in my blog series Going Alumna!

Amanda Cross is a recent Sigma Sigma Sigma alumna from the University of Central Arkansas in Conway, Arkansas. She loves blogging, reading, and binging on too much social media and netflix. She is super excited to start her new monthly series Going Alumna as well as to start her journey as a Marketing and Communications Assistant for Tri Sigma.

Confessions of a Sigma-holic

  • Posted on June 16, 2015 at 12:01 pm

Hello, my name is Jackie and I’m a Sigma-holic… Jacqulyn King

It is high school graduation season, and if you have a legacy heading off to college this fall, there are a few details you need to know before she steps foot on campus.  I confess that I learned most of these the hard way and I hope that these suggestions will allow you to avoid the mistakes I have made.

So if your daughter, granddaughter, sister, niece, or cousin is interested in participating in Greek life on her campus, I suggest you do the following ASAP:

  • Have the “Sorority Conversation”.  Please explain that sorority is something that you enjoy, but that it is her decision whether to join, or not.  As a legacy, a Tri Sigma Chapter will give her special consideration, but this is not a guarantee that she will be extended a bid. On the other hand, she should feel free to choose the sorority that “she” feels most at home with.  Assure her that it is okay to join another group.  We choose and are chosen.  The goal should always be a positive sorority experience for your legacy.
  • Start NOW!  Do not wait to learn what she needs to do to participate in formal recruitment.  Many campuses hold Panhellenic recruitment PRIOR to the first week of classes.
  • Determine if there is a Tri Sigma Chapter on her campus.  The National website lists all Sigma chapters, simply go to http://www.trisigma.org/Home.mvc and select Meet Us from the menu at the top of the page.  This will take you to the Chapter Locater. If a Sigma chapter is available the next step to take is….
  • Submit an Alumnae Recommendation form to National.  Access to this form can be obtained by going to the National website and logging on to Sigma Connect. On this page locate the Alumnae Resource Center and click on the Forms link. From the list of forms that appear select Alumnae Recommendation.
  • Research Panhellenic Recruitment on her campus:
  1. Go to the college’s website and check under Student Life or Organizations.
  2. Contact a member of the Chapter’s Alumnae Advisory Board (AAB), preferably the Membership Advisor. This information can be obtained by contacting National Headquarters at sigma@trisigma.org
  3. Find out what your legacy needs to do to register for Formal Recruitment.
  • Explain Panhellenic.  Panhellenic is the governing body over all the sororities on campus, which has many regulations in place intended to protect students from receiving pressure from sororities to join their group.  As a result, there may be little or no contact allowed with individual sorority members prior to Panhellenic Formal Recruitment.  Therefore these sorority women may seem aloof.  However, they must keep their distance, as their sorority could receive harsh penalties if they are perceived as attempting to illegally recruit a student.  In fact, some campuses enforce a Sorority Silence until Formal Recruitment begins.

I sincerely hope this information is helpful.  Good luck with your efforts and if you have further questions please feel free to email National at sigma@trisigma.org.  It is my wish that there will soon be a future Sigma-holic in your family.


Jacqulyn King (Alpha Phi) is a retired high school Library Media Specialist, and she and her husband Mark divide their time between homes in Michigan and Florida. She belongs to the West Michigan, Central Michigan and Southwest Florida Alumnae chapters. Her blog Confessions of a Sigmaholic runs the third Tuesday of every month.

2016 Convention: “Yous Guys” Just Can’t Miss it!

  • Posted on June 10, 2015 at 12:02 pm

By: Angela David

BluesLately I’ve had one song stuck in my head. Lyrics saying “Come on, oh baby, don’t you wanna go? Back to that same old place, Sweet home Chicago.” As we kick-off our 365-day countdown to Convention 2016, I hope you all want to join me in sweet home, Chicago!  I am so excited to have the honor of being your National Convention Chairman.  I feel so thrilled to have the privilege of helping bring my Sigma sisters to the city I call home for Convention 2016 themed, “What Will Matter”.

An eye-opener during my first Convention was that Sigma is so much bigger than me, my Chapter, my Alumnae Chapter, and even those I am friends with on Facebook. I know that Sigma has helped shaped “What Will Matter” for me as we reflect on our values of faith, hope, wisdom, power, and love. Convention gives us the opportunity to reflect on what our Founders’ thought mattered back in 1898, but also gives us an opportunity to look towards the future of “What Will Matter” and the legacy we set during Convention.


As someone who has lived in Chicago (ok the suburbs) my entire life, I still find the city completely intriguing. There is always a new place to discover and explore. Chicago is a city that is hard to describe in just a few words, especially those must-see/must-do places. Convention is very similar in it is difficult to describe in just a few words to someone the feeling of being surrounded by over 600 of your sisters. The best way for me to describe it is to share what local Chicago alumnae have said:

“You don’t understand the power of convention until you attend…Women working together for a common goal …sharing, learning and laughing.  If you have never attended but always wanted to it will be very emotional being in the presence of something greater than you as an individual and realizing the impact you and your sisters have on future generations.” – Jill Zager, AN, Fox Valley, IL Alumnae Chapter

“The ultimate girl time!  I have attended 12 Conventions – I was privileged to be the delegate when I was a collegiate and my roommate at that Convention became a friend for life as well as my roommate after college. Conventions have provided the opportunity to reconnect with sisters who I may only see every three years – some more frequently – others less. It provided the sense of a national organization to me – the broad scope – sisters with a common bond who share much and also offer plenty of diversity. It is pure joy to witness the respect and love we share together!” – Nancy McGowan, Kappa, NW Suburban Chicago Alumnae Chapter

“Convention is hard to put into words…overload on Sigma, fun, inspiring, too little sleep, lots of laughter…I guess I would relate it to having a kid…the reward is much more than can be explained. It has to be experienced to really understand how inspiring and wonder it is.” – Rebecca Calkins, EO, Fox Valley, IL Alumnae Chapter

Convention truly reminds me of the famous Portillo’s Chocolate Cake because there are many layers to convention (if you have never been to a Portillo’s make sure to put this as a must stop during your visit to Chicago).


The Cake itself…

Convention is structured, similarly like a cake needs to be structured (if not we’d just have a big pile of crumbs). Convention has the structure of business sessions each day. Business sessions are like one large chapter meeting. There is a head table where the Executive Council sits, overlooking the Convention Body, which is similar to officers presiding over a chapter meeting. The Convention Body is made up voting delegates each representing our collegiate and alumnae chapters and National officer positions.  This may look similar to what you’d know as chairmen and chapter members.   Additionally, there is a seated gallery where non-voting members can take part in the business of the Convention Body, because we all have a say in “What Will Matter.”  Whether you currently are or once were a collegian, you know chapter meetings are where all the major decisions are made.   So on a National level, Convention is your opportunity to help form and mold the organization, and as our theme is, really help decide “What Will Matter” to Sigma now and in the future.  Past Convention Bodies have helped shape what mattered to the organization with discussion around our National policies, such as hazing, alcohol, office structure, and even ritual. You have a say in what our organization looks like and values. Convention is wonderful because that “you” can be ANY member, no matter how old you are, how long you’ve been a Sigma, or even if you’ve been disconnected the past few years…ALL are welcome to attend.

The Frosting…

Convention is so sweet just the like frosting on the chocolate cake. Do you think I’d ask you to come to Chicago and have you sit in meetings all day? Of course not! Did I mention that Chicago is home to not just one alumnae chapter, but THREE! Along with a spectacular local Convention Committee comprised of members of the Chicago North Shore Alumnae Chapter, Chicago NW Suburban Alumnae Chapter, and the Fox Valley, IL Alumnae Chapter, and the amazingly supportive National Headquarters’ staff, we promise to provide a Convention filled with lifelong memories, laughter and tears, and of course more stories than the Willis Tower (or Sears Tower to all Chicagoans). Convention provides many opportunities of fun from the themed banquets, to a “slumber party” atmosphere with rooming with sisters, to meeting sisters for the first time (even though you are probably already Facebook friends). We want to note that we understand that Convention is not only a time commitment, but a financial one too. We want to make sure you get the most bang for your buck here in Chicago, so be rest assured that the Convention Committee is filling up the event with spectacular surprises and take-a-ways.

Special secret ingredient…


Portillo’s throws in something special to their chocolate cakes…mayonnaise! I can just see your face squinting up to think of adding such an odd ingredient to such a sweet treat. Just like the mayo, you can look forward to many surprises and exciting events added to our 2016 Convention agenda, such as a surprise Sisterhood event, a little taste of Chicago, and the return of a southern tea where we honor our roots in the Farmville Four.

These are just “three” little hints for now, but please know the Convention Committee and I have many, many more surprises up our sleeves of “What Will Matter.”

Registration will open in the Spring of 2016, but in the meantime, I encourage you to check our National Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Blog and website for future updates, hints, giveaways, contests, and, of course, the official countdown!  However, I would be doing my position and our Sisterhood a disservice if I didn’t challenge you to actually speak to someone about Convention.  As a professional fundraiser we are always told to have an elevator speech ready in our back pocket, so I challenge you to start the conversation about Convention and what matters to you about Sigma. I truly hope by sharing this glimpse of Convention and what matters to me about Sigma will encourage even just one sister to attend.

I cannot wait for all of you to join me next year and as Frank Sinatra said it best “And each time I roam, Chicago is… Calling me home, Chicago is… Why I just grin like a clown… It’s my kind of town.”

Profound Impact

  • Posted on June 9, 2015 at 12:07 pm

By: Emily Turner

Today in Negril, I started my day with a shower and then breakfast at the Whistling Bird, our hotel. My shower was a nice start to the day, like many, I do some deep thinking in the shower. While thinking, I formed my expectations for the day, those expectations were long forgotten when I was overwhelmed with happiness instead.

At breakfast, I was sitting with some of the most wonderful women of character. These women are my sisters, I thought. Very rarely do I feel so content with where I am. I say there eating the most delicious meal made by some of the most gracious ladies and gentlemen of the Whistling Bird, and was very happy. Expectations were gone.

Then, we went to church. I was honestly scared to go to church. I lost a very dear family friend in October, my best friend’s mother. She’s been in my life since I was 3 and she has been a huge influence to me. I am very much still grieving the loss of that influence. The last time I was in a church I was sitting in the front of the church holding myself and my best friend together as we said goodbye to her mother and the woman I have always called Mom.

I was terrified to death to enter that same environment, I didn’t want to be sad anymore and I most certainly did not want to cry in front of these women. I don’t make a habit of crying in front of people I just met less that 24 hours before. I stood in church, the atmosphere was upbeat and welcoming, so I thought it wouldn’t be hard to get through. My thoughts were focused on getting through the service, not really being there. That definitely changed.

During the service, the music was very loud and catchy, many were dancing. An older woman pulled many out of the pew and took us to the front of the aisle, to dance. When she came back for me, I grabbed her before she grabbed me, I was truly joyous. I was dancing and singing and I looked up at the ceiling, clapping my hands over my head and began to cry. I felt as though Mom was dancing with me. She was rejoicing in the Lord right along next to me. I had been so hateful towards the idea of God since I watched the most beautiful woman I knew and looked to wither away, how could he do that to her? This was something I was really struggling with, until I was dancing in that church. He didn’t take her life, or even who she was, he took her pain. This beautiful joyous woman who took me to the front of that church, accepting me so willingly, helped me accept that.

I have never seen a church like that, these people have so little by the standards that I have been raised on, but do they really? They have themselves, their fellow Jamaicans, and their health. That is beauty to them, that is money to them, that is all the material they need, that is their everything. This sentiment is so radiant that it is obvious to all of the women on this trip and was a sentiment expressed by all at tonight dinner and tonight’s closing talks.

We disused serving as opposed to helping tonight as well. How serving is more beneficial to the soul, and helping others can point out an inequality between people. Tomorrow we begin serving the first school and after today, I cannot hardly wait to begin. My desire to learn so much from this journey, here in Jamaica and to contribute as much as I can to these beautiful people and this beautiful land. This is no longer a trip for me but a journey for my soul and the souls of my fellow sisters. As I sit here typing this, sitting in a chair on the shore, the water at my feet, the people walking the shore behind me, stopping to say hello, I think of Mom. How she has taught me to contribute to others the best I can, and know that this trip already has and will have a profound impact on who I am, especially the elderly woman from the loud and upbeat church.


Emily Turner is one of the seventeen Tri Sigma’s on the Service Immersion Trip to Negril, Jamaica.

Monkeys Don’t Wear Panties

  • Posted on June 5, 2015 at 12:05 pm

By: Molly Schroeder SteadmanMolly Schroeder Steadman

The Gingers, as my 5 year old twin girls are called, had their first dance recital this week. They were monkeys in little sequined body suits complete with tutus and tails. Madame, the instructor who dresses only in black, was very clear. “We don’t want our panties to show. Monkeys do not wear panties!”
So there were my little panty free (so excited!) monkeys, in the back row, stage left. The music comes on and well let’s just say their next school won’t be Juilliard, it was their first year and they were in a class with some veteran monkeys and it showed.
I had such anxiety about the recital. You see, I had been to each practice and knew the truth, mine were not the most  graceful monkeys in the tree. One of the moms downloaded the music and made her monkey practice the routine each night. I thought about doing that but it seemed like work and dance class is a fun activity; not a chore. So there they we were; two little monkeys swinging the wrong way and me clapping like my pants were on fire.
It reminds me of how far we will go to protect the people we care about. I was determined that my monkeys would not realize how off they were compared to the others. I don’t care if they grow up to be professionals ballerinas, but I do want them to develop some grace and be able to walk across the floor with out falling down. Clearly our work with Madame is not finished.
Mothers are fiercely protective, it is carried over from our caveman days. It’s biology. But we can be just as protective of our family, sisters and ideals. We all know someone who will fight to the death over what in reality is a remarkably silly point of distinction. The words “agree to disagree” might be some of the most important words in the English language.
So when I read in the news about somebody’s mama or friend or colleague sticking up for them in the wake of overwhelming evidence, I try to remember that it’s just biology. After all, we were all panty free monkeys a million years ago or so.
Molly Schroeder Steadman (Chi) is a former chapter officer, local and national sorority volunteer, and National Headquarters employee. She recently moved back to Kansas with her husband and three children. Join her in supporting the future of Tri Sigma with regular donations to the Foundation, preferably the Chi Scholarship fund. Her blog, “Is everybody wearing panties?”, runs the first Friday of every month. Values aren’t something you are born wearing; like your panties, you have to put them on every day before you leave the house.

Missing Puzzle Piece

  • Posted on June 3, 2015 at 12:05 pm

By: Chelsea Robbins Chelsea Robbins Church Service

For the past four years I have been an active member of Tri Sigma and I have learned the power of caring through my family and friends, the power of dedication through my sisters, and most recently, the eternal and divine power through God. Growing up in a Catholic family and church community, I was constantly being reminded of God and all His wonderful works.

Being young, I didn’t participate much in church services or youth group. Once I reached my Senior year in college, I felt I had a calling and so I began to open up my heart more to God. Since being accepted for this service trip, I knew my calling had a connection to this journey. And today I realized what that calling was.

This morning, as I sat in the New Life Tabernacle Pentecostal Church in Negril, Jamaica I experienced an overwhelming power take over my heart and soul. Not one such as the power of money or status but the power of love and faith. Overcome with emotion I turned to the beautiful people around me: my sisters from across the United States and the people of Jamaica. Through them I was empowered to worship Jesus without judgement and was able to serve God today with the local congregation. I have never experienced such a moving service as I did today. As members of the congregation ranging in age stood up during the church service to tell their story of why they love God, why they praise Him, or why they are thankful for Him my heart felt so whole. This feeling of wholeness along with the cheerful hymns and praises we sang together made me feel a sense of home I have never felt before. Being welcomed with open arms in a foreign country during such a meaningful church service was something I didn’t expect when embarking on this immersion trip. Having an elder member of the congregation grab my hand and pull me to the front of the church to praise and worship Jesus alongside her was another unexpected reality that happened today. The power of the words I heard in the church service today, the power of the happiness and joy on everyone’s faces, the power of faith instilled in my heart and soul today at the New Life Tabernacle truly is one I will never forget.

During our group discussion tonight after sharing a delicious meal, we read an article entitled “In The Service of Life” by Rachel Naomi Remen. The article outlines the true meaning of service and how we can heal others through our service. As I mentioned above, before embarking on this immersion trip, I felt that there was more out there for me, sort of a piece from this beautiful puzzle of life missing and I can already say on day two of this journey that I have found my missing puzzle piece. I have learned that service is not an addition to your résumé, it’s not something to boast about nor feed your ego but “service is the work of the soul.” This trip has given me a once in a lifetime to serve the people of Jamaica, to serve my soul in becoming stronger in my faith, and to serve God because “I can do all things through him who strengthens me,” Philippians 4:13.

With that, it is with a full heart that I can say my soul has been healed and I send good vibes from Jamaica to everyone reading!

One Lord. One Faith. One Baptism.
Ephesians 4:5


Chelsea is one of the seventeen Tri Sigma’s on the Service Immersion Trip in Negril, Jamaica.

See Life as Whole

  • Posted on June 1, 2015 at 12:09 pm

By: Tyler Bates Tyler Bates

As I began our first day on the worksite, I kept coming back to this quote from an article we had discussed the previous night.

“When you help you see life as weak, when you fix, you see life as broken. When you serve, you see life as whole.” – IN THE SERVICE OF LIFE by Rachel Naomi Remen

I have realized I did not come to help nor did I come to fix Jamaica. I came to serve because Jamaica is strong and beautiful. Jamaica is happy and full of life. Jamaica is whole, not broken nor weak.

Throughout the day we worked on painting the Presidents Cabin at Church Hill Elementary.

As I painted, I listened to the endless chatter and bubbly laughter that passed through the colorful walls, finding comfort in the new bonds forming right before my eyes and the new home coming to life right underneath our own hands. I felt the wholeness.

As the Jamaican workers and volunteers came out on their own Labor Day to help with smiling faces and welcoming arms, I felt the wholeness.

As I talked to native wide eyed children, who told me their favorite subject was Math… then English… and then science too, in their love for the education, I felt the wholeness.

Looking back on today, my heart is full of love and life because we are serving and contributing to something that is whole and thriving. As I walk through the rest of this journey and the rest of my life, I will remember to serve and inspire others to serve.

On this trip I have already given much, and received so much more.


Tyler is one of the seventeen Tri Sigma’s on the Service Immersion Trip in Negril, Jamaica.

What Seniors Are For

  • Posted on May 29, 2015 at 12:03 pm

By:Kayla Johnson sigma blog

The end of every semester is filled with stress, lots of coffee, a few mental breakdowns and of course, relief that the one class that was threatening to kill your GPA is finally over. But, along with the rollercoaster of emotions that are accompanied with finals, sorority women across the country are reminded of something they have been avoiding all semester– the seniors are leaving, and there’s no way to stop it (other than a diabolical sabotage plan, but we won’t go there). Seniors provide so much for a chapter, and every time a new batch leaves, it seems as though the world might fall apart. Who is going to fill their shoes and sit in their seats at chapter meetings? They bring so much wisdom, leadership and the ideals of what being a woman of character really means.

Losing a senior class can be one of the most traumatic parts of the semester, so to ease the pain and make the transition a bit more bearable, the Gamma Lambda Chapter of the University of Wisconsin Eau Claire has begun a tradition of Senior Send On. Prior to the event, each member of the chapter makes a scrapbook page for each of the graduating seniors, filled with photos, memories, quotes, words of encouragement and pleas of them to not leave yet. Then, a scrapbook of the pages is compiled for each individual woman in order to preserve their presence here in Tri Sigma and to show how much they are loved and appreciated.

A week or so before the semester ends, every woman from the chapter piles into the living room of the Sigma House, it’s cozy, sometimes hot, but always loving space as everyone prepares for the tears they know are coming. One by one, we recognize each senior for their accomplishments, share stories, cry and let the seniors know what an impact they have made on everyone. Each girl in the chapter has a chance to share about each of the seniors, no one is required to share but its almost impossible to not pour your heart out to the seniors one last time, in a safe space.

While the tissues are being passed around, hugs are being given and everyone tries to put themselves back together, we often forget that the most important role of a senior is to open up their spot for a younger member. They have set the bar high, pulling more than their own weight in the chapter and always striving for the best version of Sigma that there can be. When they leave, it allows another woman to step up and make sure that the duties and legacy of the senior is being fulfilled and that the chapter still thrives in honor of the departing woman, it creates the opportunity for another leader to emerge.

So, we thank you, seniors, for always being the strongest women of the chapter, for giving us role models to look up to, for being the voice of reason, for following the rules, for bending over backwards for the chapter, but most of all, for showing us how to be a true woman of character. We will strive to achieve as much as you have and seek to be always moving ever forward.

To receive much, you must give much.


Kayla is an avid runner and yogi with an optimists disposition. As a vegetarian, she loves all animals and people alike, tending to often love animals just a tad more than most people, with a few exceptions. She is studying special education at the University of Wisconsin Eau Claire and hopes to one day leave this earth a little better than it was than when she entered. 

Confessions of a Sigma-holic

  • Posted on May 19, 2015 at 12:07 pm

Hello, my name is Jackie and I’m a Sigma-holic…Jacqulyn King

A year has come and gone since I began contributing to this blog and I confess that I’m not sure if my ramblings are of any benefit to Sigma. Don’t get me wrong, I love to go on and on about my favorite subject, but I fear that after a year of this many of you may be suffering from Sigma-holic fatigue.

So why am I a Sigma-holic? I’m a Sigma-holic because I truly believe that Tri Sigma is about Friendship, Character, and Conduct. On March 7th of this year, a video of a racist chant by fraternity brothers at the University of Oklahoma brought shame to the entire Greek community, and the fraternity’s suspension. It only took 10 seconds of stupidity on a bus headed to a fraternity function to set Greeks back fifty years.

It also came to light that sorority members were present when this incident took place, which leads me to the point of this blog… “What would you do if you had been on that bus?” I think this is a discussion we need to have.

Can you imagine yourself in the same shoes as these sorority women? You are on your way to what promises to be a lovely evening. Perhaps you’re a freshmen and this is your first fraternity formal. You have had a crush on your date all semester and you can’t believe that you are finally a couple. You searched for days to find the perfect outfit and you are looking good and feeling fine. Then a few of the brothers, who have obviously had too much to drink, break into this racist chant. You’re offended and you look around to see how others are responding. No one seems to be taking any action to stop the chant; some appear to be ignoring the behavior, while others are actually joining in. What would you do?

In this situation there are no innocent bystanders. While those on board may not have been able to put a stop to the chant, they could have put a stop to the bus. I realize it is easy to be an armchair quarterback, but if only one person on that bus had had the courage to stand up for her/his convictions there may have been a completely different outcome to this story.

It would take a brave young woman to walk up that aisle and ask the driver to pull over. It could very well cause the end of a few relationships, but it could also provide the lead for others to follow. Those people on board the bus who were too timid to stand up themselves, may have jumped at an opportunity to leave once it was presented. Of course there is always the possibility that you may be the only one to get off the bus, but as a woman of character… that is what you do.


Jacqulyn King (Alpha Phi) is a retired high school Library Media Specialist, and she and her husband Mark divide their time between homes in Michigan and Florida. She belongs to the West Michigan, Central Michigan and Southwest Florida Alumnae chapters. Her blog Confessions of a Sigmaholic runs the third Tuesday of every month.

Is Everyone Wearing Panties: It’s a Shame About Your Panties

  • Posted on May 8, 2015 at 12:08 pm

By: Molly Schroeder SteadmanMolly Schroeder Steadman

Unless you live in a cave, and with 3 kids in 4 years sometimes I feel like I do, you know about the term “______ shaming”. You can fill almost anything for the first bit, workout, food, slut, parenting, there is even a funny coconut oil shaming video making the rounds on YouTube.

Whatever we call it, this new shaming is “not good” as my first-born would say. Have you heard about the parent who claims she was food shamed on the playground? All the moms broke out their snacks and while she wasn’t serving kale brownies, she did think her granola bar was ok. Nope, off the friendnmies went on the dangers of HcFC, GMO grains, artificial this, packaged that; it’s enough to make the Quaker Oat man blanch.

A dad the other day claims that the letter sent home by the school calling out his little princess for wearing a spaghetti strap sundress (a clear violation of the dress code) shamed his 5 year old. Hot flash dad, don’t read the letter to her or better yet, read her the dress code.

Even at our house, I have a sister (by blood this time) whose parenting style, let’s say, differs from mine. She asked what we were doing for summer and when I told her about our various things, I got a mini text lecture about how we pressure girls to do too much and don’t just let them be. Dude, it’s an art class I don’t have to clean up. Not going to talk me out of this one.

I guess my point, and I do have one: it is a fine line between knowing what’s right and telling people that they’re wrong. And just like you never want to be out and about showing your panty lines, you don’t want to cross that line and show your a$$.


Molly Schroeder Steadman (Chi) is a former chapter officer, local and national sorority volunteer, and National Headquarters employee. She recently moved back to Kansas with her husband and three children. Join her in supporting the future of Tri Sigma with regular donations to the Foundation, preferably the Chi Scholarship fund. Her blog, “Is everybody wearing panties?”, runs the first Friday of every month. Values aren’t something you are born wearing; like your panties, you have to put them on every day before you leave the house.