Hello, my name is Jackie and I’m a Sigma-holic…
August has arrived and therefore it is back to sorority season. Whether you’re a collegiate member returning to campus, or an Alumna who’s chapter has been on summer hiatus, it is time to brush off the cobwebs and get excited about the year ahead.
How wonderful to have a blank slate in front of you. Just think of all the possibilities we have to once again live our values and promote Friendship, Character, and Conduct. It is also an excellent time to “Exorcise the demons!” (Jim Carrey). Please let go of any baggage or animosity that may be weighing you down from last spring and just (as suggested by Taylor Swift) “Shake it off!”
Before diving into all the sorority obligations and projects that lay ahead of you, take some time to reflect on why you became a Tri Sigma and how much you value each of your sisters. This is the perfect time to hold a Pros & Cons Session. Call the chapter together and have everyone sit in a circle. If you could gather around a campfire it would be ideal, if not, place a lighted candle and document shedder in the center of the circle.
Ask each sister to bring a purple pen to the session, and everyone there should be given three 3” X 5” index cards. Begin the gathering with Tri Sigma’s Opening Prayer. Next ask each sister to take the first index card and write on it anything negative concerning Sigma that they are still holding on to. It could be something that ticked them off in the past, any grudge they might be holding, or a slight they may have felt. If a sister hasn’t anything negative to write down that is wonderful, she should just write, “I’m good” if that is the case. When everyone has finished, ask each sister to please let go of these feelings. Each woman will then take a turn coming to the center of the circle to drop her card in the campfire or put it in the shedder. They will not share what they wrote down with the rest of the group. The idea behind this exercise is forgive and forget.
Next ask sisters to take a new card and write down a favorite Sigma memory, or a reason why they chose Tri Sigma, any positive reflection concerning their sisterhood experience will do. When the writing stops, each will share what she wrote in turn around the circle.
On the last card, ask sisters to write down one thing they plan to do in the year ahead that will positively support the chapter. When the writing stops ask the women to fold the card and put it in their pocket. Tell them to pull this out from time to time as a reminder of what they hope to accomplish. End the session by having everyone stand, lock arms and sing In the Light.
So here’s to a positive beginning for each chapter, and remember that sometimes to receive much, we must “forgive” much.
Jacqulyn King (Alpha Phi) is a retired high school Library Media Specialist, and she and her husband Mark divide their time between homes in Michigan and Florida. She belongs to the West Michigan, Central Michigan and Southwest Florida Alumnae chapters. Her blog Confessions of a Sigmaholic runs the third Tuesday of every month.